Episode 10: Being Resilient with Sherry Walling, PhD
On this episode of The Friday Habit, Ben and Mark talk with Dr. Sherry Walling, a clinical psychologist with a specialization in trauma and stress. She works with people in high-intensity jobs, particularly entrepreneurs, so she has been trained in the space of chaos and has the advantage of experience in knowing how to navigate uncertain times.
Sherry says that during this time of coronavirus affecting countries all over the world and the subsequent impacts on the economy, many people are experiencing instability and a heavier than normal mental load. There is really nothing anyone could have done to plan or prepare for this drastic shift in lifestyle, which makes us all feel unsettled and burdened. It is very important to create as much cushion for yourself as possible: get plenty of sleep, eat well, limit alcohol and sugar intake, move your body every day, and create structures or boundaries.
In fact, these drastic shifts in lifestyle and daily life may merit the need for grieving the loss of rhythms, interactions, jobs, milestones, and comfort. Grieving these things might look like this: talk about it with others (virtually), move your body, and then discuss the question “What is the next meaningful move to make?” You may also find it helpful to step back from your own needs for a minute and reach out to help others around you in any way you can.
It is all about finding a counterbalance to what is going on in the world and in your own life, taking control of what you can through deep breathing, moving your body, and creatively reorganizing your mindset through mindfulness practices. As a business owner, the most practical ways to develop resilience are to be intentional with your choices, be honest about your limitations, and choose joy and creativity. Sherry’s action item after this episode is that you find a “quarantine project” that provides you with an outlet that allows you to experience stillness every day.